Friday, September 15, 2006

Feeding safely

Someone texted me to tell me that she was having problems as she was feeding. She said that she had people exposing themselves to her, and that someone rubbed up against her. She was scared to make a fuss and hence was suffering in silence.

Feeding of course is best done in pairs - but this is often hard to do. You need to feed safe and keep yourself safe. Feed in a well-lit area. Carry a whistle, burglar alarm or a water spray - and don't be afraid to yell for help. This woman told me that while this was in a backlane, there were quite a few people around. She just didn't know how to react. These people are counting on that - and they are using it to intimidate her.

Always look confident. Stand tall. Look like you are not afraid to kick up a fuss and do it! Carry a mobile phone at all times if you have one. Carry a camera if you can to take photos. Call the police if anyone bothers you - you should NOT have to put up with any abuse, physical or verbal. Make a police report if anyone bothers you.

Keeping quiet is what people are hoping you'll do. If you make yourself a difficult target because you're prepared to scream or make a fuss, they'll most likely to leave you alone.

Ivan has written an article about this - and it'll appear in the next newsletter, but just some pointers till that comes out.

10 Comments:

Blogger vegancat said...

An elderly lady showed me an auto whistle blower that was activated by pulling out a plug into a 3cm rounded device. She got it free from attending a function held by the Civil Defence. I pulled out the plug and it was deafening!

15/9/06 8:31 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

Wow that's very good! Anyone know where you can buy one?

15/9/06 8:42 PM  
Blogger vegancat said...

Website
scdf

15/9/06 8:59 PM  
Anonymous E_Cat said...

DIY stores also sells something like that. Will set up back by about $10+. Look for brands like Soundtech.

Maybe feeders can write to SCDF. The folks there are pretty nice and will give out these freebies since usually they are lying around in the store.

16/9/06 2:09 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Bring a pair of scissors and point at his *****!!

16/9/06 9:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

bringing weapons may not be a good idea. there cld be a scuffle and the wrong person cld end up getting hurt. noisy device is a better idea. Dawn is right, act like u won't hesitate to kick up a fuss and that will deter the sickos.

for some reason, i get the feeling from reading blogs and posts and such that caregivers seem to be a real meek bunch. Forever lurking in shadows, afraid to show themselves and stand up for their rights. It's one thg to be modest abt yr contributions nd to be discreet but u're not doing any favours to yourself or the cats in your care if u don't hv the courage to stand up for what's right.

also many s'poreans equate being assertive with being aggressive and confrontational. it need not be that way. u can disagree with what a person does without disliking him as a person. after all, what he does in a given situation is just a small part of who he is.

16/9/06 10:26 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

Well said Anonymous!

16/9/06 10:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Check out cash converters, they have these buddy guard alarm for $1! Pull the cord and deafening..

17/9/06 4:41 PM  
Anonymous fatcat said...

Really glad to hear Ivan's doing an article on feeding safely. The noisemaker is a good idea; let's hope photophone technology develops so much that the feature will be available in really cheap mobiles. Many of the aunties don't carry a phone because it costs; also, many are defeated by technology--afraid of it.

Would it be a good idea to do a Feed-Safely workshop for caregivers and seek sponsorship from companies/agencies that might provide the alarms free or really good discounts on photo phones for feeders in recognised or organised schemes?

18/9/06 9:22 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

Unfortunately Fatcat, we couldn't even get companies to sponsor disposable CAMERAS. Not sure they'd help with this.

18/9/06 9:57 PM  

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