Wednesday, March 14, 2007

Sometimes it isn't just the complainants

Sigh this woman wrote in again. Now she is insisting that she doesn't know why I am making a fuss about the money - I wrote back to say that if she doesn't see why asking students to pay is an issue, then I'm not sure I can ever explain.

She accused me of asking the students to stop trapping and I agreed - I said I didn't want them to go out and trap without cat traps and with them being expected to pay and handle everything with no experience. I didn't want them to (1) get hurt and (2) have to pay because they are students. She said that she had spoken with the main student involved and he was very upset at the way I had spoken with him.

I called him up to apologise if I had in any way offended him though I was surprised. He has always been nothing but very polite and grateful. He was taken aback. He said that he had not spoken to her in a long time, had never said anything of the kind to her, and that he was in no way upset.

She is insisting that Michelle speak with her because she doesn't like CWS' attitude and that SPCA would never have done this and she doesn't know why I am making a fuss over money.

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Blogger VeganCatsg said...

One way of resolving this issue and to stop "putting words in other people's mouth" is perhaps to have a face-to-face conference.

14/3/07 4:30 PM  
Blogger Profpig ^@^ said...

Your good intentions have turned back and bitten you in the a**. Most of the time, kindness is taken otherwise. This woman has a bone to pick. She obviously the person nursing a grudge, not the student. Sick how people create tales like that.

14/3/07 4:36 PM  
Blogger Profpig ^@^ said...

Vegancatsg- I've had face to face conference with people of such nature and they still insisted that they still want to hamtum me for something that had been done right. It puzzles me how these people operate. Sigh

14/3/07 4:39 PM  
Anonymous imp said...

this one is also not very rational. i wouldn't suggest working with her again. i'd even go so far as to issue a circular to the students (maybe not name her) that they must not PAY for anything beyond offering physical help.

14/3/07 5:02 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

vegancatsg - I don't think it will work. She is now writing emails to the caregiver and accusing HIM of lying too. She is also insisting the student was upset even though he has told me he was not.

The school is aware of this and says that they will look out for it.

14/3/07 5:24 PM  
Blogger Profpig ^@^ said...

Dawn- You deserve a pat on your back. Having to deal with schizos almost everyday.

14/3/07 5:41 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

How about just a Panadol? :)

14/3/07 6:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm totally confuse by this case. Dawn, please explain further. If a group of students volunteers to help a feeder trap and sterilise cats, as well as volunteer to pay for it, what exactly is wrong with that?

I did read all your back posts, but I'm puzzled.

She did not force the students to do those things did she? Is that what the problem is?

14/3/07 8:21 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

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14/3/07 9:02 PM  
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14/3/07 9:04 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

Hi Anonymous - the main problem was that I didn't think she should be asking students to pay for it. The student in fact told me that they were hoping she would contribute and were I believe under the expectation she would help out but she told me in no uncertain terms earlier that she would not be paying.

She also got them to do all the work - get the transport (and pay for it), and even do the boarding in school to which the students went to a lot of trouble to do.

First and most importantly, I don't think she should be making students pay. After all, they're students. They don't earn any money - she should not be abusing their generosity. She kept insisting that the other feeder isn't working - but neither are these students.

Secondly, I wanted to be put in touch with the feeder when this started unfolding. I said if money was an issue, we could look into financial aid for that feeder. I also wanted to find out why the feeder she was supposed to be helping wasn't doing anything to help the cats. This complainant refused to give me her contact information.

The feeder by the way is working - she insists that she has no more money. that's fine - but then she should bear in mind the students don't either.

14/3/07 9:04 PM  
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14/3/07 9:06 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

I was also concerned that there seemed to be no provision for what the students were doing. When I asked them whether they had their cat traps, they told me that that they had no idea what those were. I was taken aback that they were being asked to trap these cats they didn't know with their bare hands. With cats that they are unused to, they could have gotten hurt if they tried that.

14/3/07 9:08 PM  
Blogger Profpig ^@^ said...

Dawn - The catching of cats with bare hands can get you or CWS or any kitties into big trouble with parents or the authorities.

It's so unfair that that woman wants CHARITY work to be done in her goodwill. It's like "Hey God, I'm asking children to do charity on my behalf but bear in mind, it's I who's the kind one. Not the kids cos I initiated it."

Is that woman trying to manipulate the situation? So she's the slavedriver but when you come along to free them, she objects! LOL. This is so Bollywood! Any chance that she can dance as well as she maligns? Good thing you had the kids stop. For her, it's as good as child slavery (though they might not be that young).

The trust of the innocent is the liar's most useful tool - Stephen King

14/3/07 10:07 PM  
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14/3/07 10:46 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

Very nice quote Profpig. Yes - they are really nice kids, which made me worry more for them. They wanted to nurse them in cages and had none, so approached us to borrow them. That's how I realised what was happening.

I asked the student how they intended to get the cats INTO the cages - and it turned out they hadn't been told that these cats might not take too well to being shifted around from trap to cage. The student, when I asked him about it, said that come to think of it, it WAS strange that the feeder hadn't offered to look after them during recuperation.

14/3/07 10:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Parents would complain if there is a possibility of a child getting scratched in trapping cats. And that could happen.
I still remembered the pain when a cat sank its teeth into my hand when i was trying to remove it from a tree .. and the tetanus shot and the healing period.
Even with the right equipment and experience-you still need patience and the time (usually at night).
To get inexperienced young people to trap cats without proper equipment and supervision could cause stress/harm to cats too.
So many things could go wrong. In one instance, the door of the carrier was not secured properly and the disoriented cat dashed off into the bushes on a busy road.

15/3/07 1:22 AM  
Blogger Dawn said...

Yes very true Anonymous. There's a good chance that anyone can get hurt trapping a cat but as an adult, you can make that decision. Granted these are teenagers, but one, as you mentioned, they are still minors, and their parents might get very upset. Two, it's important to at least have the proper equipment.

15/3/07 9:18 AM  

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