Friday, September 07, 2007


One of the things that I find rather surprising is that sometimes the more someone tries to help somebody else, the situation doesn't improve despite the best efforts of the person helping out. Take the case E_Cat and Aliah are helping out with - they've gone by with food, helped out with medication, taken the cats to the vet, brought and screened adopters, and E_Cat has even tried to offer her advise (and got an adopter to keep an eye out for a job) on getting a new job as the woman is unemployed. This may be partly why she is feeling down at the moment too. The woman also now has a daughter living with her who doesn't particularly like the cats which may contribute to the problem.

While the cats have been sterilised, and some cats have been adopted out, the rest of the cats continue to get sick quite regularly. The woman has mentioned several times she wants to 'release' the cats downstairs.

Sometimes I think the question is one of ownership - the woman knows E_Cat and Aliah are worried about the cats and want the best for them, so it no longer becomes her problem any longer. If she doesn't worry about them, someone else will. So it ceases to be her issue. To date, I have not heard of her going to the vet with E_Cat and Aliah to find out what she ought to do for the cats.

Perhaps it's not so surprising - if someone pays a little bit of money for an item or service, they are far more likely to treasure it than for the person who got the item free.

People sometimes call and tell me that they have a problem and ask me what CWS can do for them - most recently a woman called, and said she couldn't keep her cats, and I suggested several options, including adoption. She asked what would happen if the cats were not adopted, and I told her that frankly that's something SHE has to think about because they are her cats. It's not that we won't offer assistance in any way that we can but at the end of it all, the owner has to take some responsibility.



Blogger VeganCatsg said...

I agree that such owners will just shirk their responsibility to caregivers but the dilemma is if the caregivers don't take action, such owner never will.
Recently Sharifah has again bought meshing materials for a Malay family with 2 female cats (one just given birth) and 1 male cat, to prevent cats from messing outside and also stop the history of falling cats in this block. I told Sharifah, as it happened before with another family, that the family might reject her on the day she was to fix up the mesh or they might take it down as the mesh doesn't make the flat looks nice, esp. when Hari Raya is around the corner.
This is the risk Sharifah takes, all for the sake of the cats and with the hope that this family will be responsible even if materials and help are FREE.

7/9/07 12:12 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

Yes it's a very tough one. Hopefully though with the case you mentioned, the mesh may solve the problem once and for all.

In E_Cat and Aliah's case, if they keep providing food, medical care, helping with adoptions, etc the owner may never really take any responsibility. She may never do it EVEN if they withdraw their help but at some point, maybe their considerable energy/effort could be better spent somewhere else. Poor cats are the ones who will suffer.

7/9/07 1:41 PM  
Anonymous yskat said...

Some times, I can't help to think that some people are "condemned" to clean up other people's mess.

7/9/07 9:44 PM  
Blogger VeganCatsg said...

Try and think positive ==> challenges instead of being dammed but real tough man!

8/9/07 6:40 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

Good attitude Vegancat :)

8/9/07 7:21 PM  

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