Monday, September 17, 2007


The adoption volunteer and I were speaking the other day about peoples' expectations and what they expect others to do for them. This was brought back to me because someone has been emailing about a situation where she is concerned that there is someone boarding a cat, and this person may decide to abandon it. The cat is being boarded with another person, whom is unlikely to continue boarding the cat if the owner decides she does not wish to continue paying.

The person who emailed me has been very sweet about wanting to help - but as I mentioned to her, and as I mentioned in an earlier post, the owner has to take some responsibility as well.

The adoption volunteer was telling me that someone wrote in asking for a foster. The volunteer managed to find one at the time, but the woman who picked up the kitten said she didn't want to supply food and litter to the foster. The woman claimed that it wasn't fair and that the cat wasn't her cat. She insisted that she should not pay. It isn't her cat of course - but she DID pick up the cat out of her own volition. The volunteer also pointed out to her that the foster hadn't even picked up the cat - and surely the FOSTER could not be made to provide help AND food, litter and other essentials.

At some point, some responsibility will have to come to bear on the person who made the decision to take in the cat, whether permanently, or just taking the cat off the street while they look for someone else to take the cat. Please don't take the cat off the street unless you are sure you can give the cat a home. There's no point picking it up and hoping someone else will take it - you have to be prepared to take that cat home if no one else will.

Certainly, there may be situations that you envision your circumstances change, then please DO ask for some advise and we'll try and see if something can be worked out with the owner/person who picked up the cat. The problem however is not one to be passed to someone else by the owner - the owner has to be an integral part of the solution.



Anonymous no patience said...

I prefer not to talk to such people. I usually make it a point to supply adequate quality food and a generous ang pow in appreciation of fosters' effort.

18/9/07 2:03 AM  
Blogger Mary said...

Of course we can always choose to ignore such situations or not talk to such people but at the end of the day, it's the cat(s) who will suffer, not the human.

18/9/07 10:45 AM  
Anonymous no patience said...

Of course you tried but if all they want is to have nothing to do with the cat, that's where you go in search of an oasis of kindness elsewhere.

18/9/07 12:07 PM  

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