Cat in condo
I just received a phone call from one of the women who is involved in this group of cats. She told me that I was not aware of all the facts and that she had not seen it necessary to keep me updated on the matter as I was not part of their group. I assured her that she didn't need to - and that every community needs to decide what they want to do for themselves and that I'm more than happy to keep out of the situation.
I told her that the only reason I had gotten involved again was that one of the people in her group had contacted me and asked for help and urgently, and that yesterday when I had met them, it was agreed that talking to the management would be useful.
I also said that I thought it would be useful for the group to decide what they want to do in the long term because people might be on completely different pages and I had gotten different information from the other caregiver. She told me that the woman I spoke with doesn't have all the information either.
I reiterated again that this is her community and that I'm not telling them what to do in the long run but that I thought it would be useful for her to speak among themselves. She told me that it was really my community (she is an expatriate as are quite a large number of them there apparently) and that therefore my input would be valuable at some point.
I told her that nevertheless that I thought it was a good thing that they were sterilising the cats there. Unfortunately she seemed to take this in a negative manner. I told her that was not what I meant and that I sincerely meant it.
She also said that she found it disconcerting that I called up to have this conversation (though actually she was the one who called me) and that while she appreciated my help, I needed to back off. She said she would call me if she needed my help, though it might be an urgent phone call if they run into anything.
I asked for a minute to try and explain as I wasn't sure why she was taking what I said negatively when I had not meant it to be a criticism. She said that she didn't need my stamp of approval - which also wasn't what I was trying to say.
I also tried to reiterate that I was only involved because her fellow caregiver had contacted me and that I wasn't sure what I had done to offend her. She told me that I had already taken up several minutes of her time and she had to go.
Whatever it is, I hope that the cats there will be fine.